Memory Box with Remembrance Bowl, Urn with Stillborn Daughter’s Ashes, and Written Sentiments from Loved Ones
Dublin Core
Title
Memory Box with Remembrance Bowl, Urn with Stillborn Daughter’s Ashes, and Written Sentiments from Loved Ones
Subject
Wooden boxes
Stillbirth
Autobiographical memory
LGBTQ people
Parental Grief
Description
Photos of a memory box and its contents, created by a queer couple in honor of their stillborn daughter.
“A carpenter [made the memory box] and we got it less than two weeks after we lost her. It’s this beautiful box ... and we found a tiny urn. We still have her ashes in the box in the urn. We got a bowl and we had ten people at her memorial, and we had everybody bring a stone or some little thing that they wanted to contribute and they all put the things in the bowl. So, we have this bowl with [the] energy and things that people bought, which is really beautiful and we had extra little cards printed that people wrote on. [Her partner continued] Everybody brought something to read, and a lot of people were into literature so they brought poetry or excerpts from fiction, some theory—Judith Butler made several appearances ((all laughing)). [Returning to the first speaker] We both wrote things to read that day. It was here at the house, and all of those things are in her box and our ultrasound photos, the photos we took of her after she passed ... all in the box. It was exactly a month after the loss that we had the memorial, and it was sort of like a turning point of the crisis feeling, I feel like that really began our actual grieving process, which was a good thing.”
“A carpenter [made the memory box] and we got it less than two weeks after we lost her. It’s this beautiful box ... and we found a tiny urn. We still have her ashes in the box in the urn. We got a bowl and we had ten people at her memorial, and we had everybody bring a stone or some little thing that they wanted to contribute and they all put the things in the bowl. So, we have this bowl with [the] energy and things that people bought, which is really beautiful and we had extra little cards printed that people wrote on. [Her partner continued] Everybody brought something to read, and a lot of people were into literature so they brought poetry or excerpts from fiction, some theory—Judith Butler made several appearances ((all laughing)). [Returning to the first speaker] We both wrote things to read that day. It was here at the house, and all of those things are in her box and our ultrasound photos, the photos we took of her after she passed ... all in the box. It was exactly a month after the loss that we had the memorial, and it was sort of like a turning point of the crisis feeling, I feel like that really began our actual grieving process, which was a good thing.”
Creator
Participants in Reproductive Losses Research Project
Source
Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant
Publisher
unpublished
Date
Circa 2011
Contributor
Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project
Craven, Christa
Lang, Ella
Rights
Format
jpeg
Language
eng
Type
Still Image
Identifier
Memory Box with Remembrance Bowl, Urn with Stillborn Daughter’s Ashes, and Written Sentiments from Loved Ones_01
Still Image Item Type Metadata
Original Format
Wooden box with assorted objects inside
Citation
Participants in Reproductive Losses Research Project, “Memory Box with Remembrance Bowl, Urn with Stillborn Daughter’s Ashes, and Written Sentiments from Loved Ones,” LGBTQ+ Reproductive Loss, accessed March 24, 2023, https://lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/items/show/17.